He’s Got Leaving on His Mind
Let’s face it. There comes a time in every relationship when you have to admit that it has run its course. With some mates, it happens sooner than you thought it should or had wanted it too. Ten years is actually above the norm these days, so a relationship that goes beyond that—approaching 15 years—should be considered a grand success. But it is still a heartbreak when you have to accept that it is over.
In your daily life you can sometimes overlook the flaws, but take an extended trip, where you are spending much more intensive time together, and those flaws start to magnify. And so you find yourself taking stock as the trip winds down. Sure you still get on great, and in the right light, you can still feel good about being seen out on a date. But come the morning, when you see the clothes strewn about the floor, you look over and you come to the hard truth: it’s just not the same as it was.
The wear and tear has taken its toll. It might be tempting to just hang on a bit longer, but what better time to make the break than at the end of such a trip…you know, get a fresh start and all that. And so it happened: the emotional leaving behind.
Poor MTM. His favorite shirt, a Zara white dress shirt he has had since his Barcelona days (that’s 1990’s, folks), was unceremoniously dumped at the end of our adventure down under. He saw fit to wear it one last time, on our Next 10 Years Dinner in Sydney. And then he took it off and put it in the trash. He may have even shed a tear.